When The Door Slams
There is a way that seems right to a man, but its end is the way to death. A worker's appetite works for him; his mouth urges him on. A worthless man plots evil, and his speech is like a scorching fire. A dishonest man spreads strife, and a whisperer separates close friends. A man of violence entices his neighbor and leads him in a way that is not good. (Proverbs 16:27-29 ESV).
In the daily lives of human interactions, few works are as vibrant or universal as gossip. It pervades every culture at every level of society, especially through technology. We are living during the big bang of information. The internet, smartphones, smart-tv, AI projects, our private lives and every Tom, Dick and your Mama. Global reputation and wickedness can be manufactured in a matter of minutes.
We love to gossip for the same reason we love a good story. We are interested in people--their problems, quirks, and vulnerabilities. Gossip makes us feel better about ourselves, particularly if it takes someone more powerful down a word or two. Yet there is a paradox here. We feel powerful when we share a juicy morsel and see the look of shock, disgust, or amusement on other's face. The problem is that once we reveal the information, our power vanishes because now people know what we do. The power of gossip vanishes the moment it is shared.
Proverbs 18:8 captures gossip's addictive essence with unsettling accuracy: "The words of a whisperer are like delicious morsels; they go down into the inner parts of the body." Like the most delectable dessert, gossip is irresistibly sweet and undeniably destructive. Proverbs 16:28 warns, "A dishonest man spreads strife, and a whisperer separates close friends." This highlights a timeless truth: While gossip can inform or entertain, it damages relationships and communities
Relationships require trust, and that is precisely what gossip destroys. Proverbs 20:19 takes it further: "Whoever goes about slandering reveals secrets; therefore do not associate with a simple babbler." Solomon advised his son to steer clear of friends who gossip about others. Do you think this is kind of harsh? Actually, no, because if someone gossips to your face, they will gossip behind your back. Gossips are controlled by gossip.
That is why King David added this description to the list of those who could enter God's presence: "who does not slander with his tongue and does no evil to his neighbor, nor takes up a reproach against his friend" (Psalm 15:3). His words in Psalm 101:5 are even sobering: "Whoever slanders his neighbor secretly I will destroy. Whoever has a haughty look and an arrogant heart I will not endure."
Gossip/slander is cataloged in a list of sins throughout the New Testament. It sits alongside murder, adultery, and theft (Matthew 15:19; coveting, wickedness, deceit, sensuality, envy, and pride (Mark 7:22); hating God, insolence, haughtiness, boasting, and inventing evil (Romans 1:30); bitterness, wrath, and clamor (Ephesians 4:31); heartlessness, being unappeasable, and brutality (2 Timothy 3:3); slander, anger, and dissension (2 Corinthians 12:20; Colossians 3:8); 1 Timothy 6:4-6; 1 Peter 2:1)--just to name some of the sins. Gossip is not as trivial as we have made it.
Think about this: Jesus established a new measure of morality in (Matthew 5). We are judged not merely by our behavior but by our motives. Anger derives from the same motive as murder. Lust and divorce come from the same place as adultery. The reason we don't perform these more egregious sins is not that we are better people but that we fear punishment from God or judgment from others. Some of us are just as bad as murderers, adulterers, and cowards that will fall for anything. Gossip has a murderous motive without the courage to carry it out.
When we talk about Jesus, our gossip will shrivel because we want out words to match our witness. The more we testify about Christ, the less we will gossip around or about those we are trying to influence for him. So if you want to avoid gossip, enlarge your witness by proclaiming the Good News of our LORD and Savor Jesus Christ and the power of The Holy Spirit.
Meditation In Action: 1. Proverbs 18:8 compares gossip to "delicious morsels." Why do you think gossip is so tasty to us? 2. How can gossip improve or destroy someone's social standing?3. What should you do if someone gossip in front of you? How would your advice change if that person were a boss, a co-worker, a friend, or someone you are supervising? 4.What practical steps can individuals and communities take to reduce and prevent gossip?
Meditate on 1 Corinthians 4:13; 2 Corinthians 6:3-8; 1 Peter 3:16.
Ask the Holy Spirit to search your heart and reveal any areas of unconfessed sin. Acknowledge these to the LORD and thank Him for His forgiveness.
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