A Isolated Marriage Relationship

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"Nevertheless I have this against you, that you have left your first love. Remember therefore from where you have fallen: Repent and do the first works, or else I will come to you quickly and remove your lampstand from its place--unless you repent.                                                                                                                                                                                Revelation 2:4-5

         Marriage begins when two people make the clear unqualified promise to be faithful, each to the other, until the end of their days. That spoken promise makes the difference. A new relationship is initiated. In this day and age it's pretty rare for a marriage to last a lifetime, let alone for the couple to still like and love each other after all those years. That's really the way marriage should be.

        Think about this: When the enthusiasm and excitement has been replaced by mere existing. Communication continues to diminish as each partner pulls away from the other. The result is an isolated marriage relationship. Some of the lies we start to believe about ourselves include: "I only count when I'm perfect." "I only count when I avoid conflict." "I only count when I'm noticed, and can be center of attention." "I only count when I'm in control." These lies set you up for ridicule, abuse, fault finding, and so much more destructive forces. From one perspective they all stem from a critical, harmful, negative spirit. Lies such as these are particularly dangerous because they contain the message that "I have to be doing something or acting in a certain way to have worth as a human being." 

        Don't believe these lies. Bad things don't always happen in your marriage. You don't always goof up. In these verses, John, challenged us with regard to our relationship with God to return to our first love. We must remember and reflect on those special times we shared. Instead of focusing on all the negatives, remember the positive. The truth, is that I have worth simply because of the fact that I am a human being created in the image of God! 

        Secondly, repent or ask forgiveness for your part in letting the relationship get complacent. That process involves honestly looking at yourself in the mirror rather than pointing the finger and blaming your mate. Do some of the things you used to do in your relationship, add some sparkle by letting your partner know you were thinking of him or her. We can practice these same steps in our relationship with God. Why not start today!

Ask the Spirit to search your heart and reveal any areas of unconfessed sin.                                        Acknowledge these to the Lord and thank Him for His forgiveness.

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